Ever had that tug in your gut? An awful feeling about something but you’re not sure what or why? Maybe your friends want you to go out and party, but you have this awful, sickening feeling that is holding you back. Or your boss has been acting odd lately and it’s given you a very uneasy feeling?
Good intuition runs in my family. Some of my aunts, and even my own mother, have such accurate intuition that people refer to them as “psychic.” I inherited a small portion of this gene. We can sense certain things before they happen. My aunts and my mother can sense them far in advance, but for me I can sense it seconds before it happens.
I remember one time in particular, I was playing downstairs with my brothers (we were pretty young, I was probably eight or nine years old). My mind played this scene of my older brother slipping, falling and cutting his forehead open. Within literal seconds, my younger brother, Matt and I abruptly stopped playing (we were always setting up forts and climbing all over them), because we heard something hit the ground. It was my older brother, Nick. He had blood pouring from his forehead.
This is one random example of many. I’m not saying I’m “special”, because I know a lot of us have these “feelings.” We just choose not to listen to them often. I am urging all you girls out there to always listen to your instincts, but to not let them control your life. If you have a bad feeling about a party, maybe you shouldn’t go.
I know many of us humans struggle with anxiety. As girls, we are practically trained to always be “on edge.” Movies, news stories, our parents, our grandparents have all scared us into always being on guard. Whether we’re walking out of Target to our cars, into work when nobody is in the parking lot or down a sidewalk, girls have been conditioned to never not be aware.
I am no exception to this. One of my classes runs once a week very late. 6:30-9:20pm. So I am walking back to my car when it is pitch black out. The class is in a tucked away part of campus and when I get out there is nobody else walking around. Most of the people in my class are still living in dorms, and the dorms are nearby so they walk back together. Let me tell you: my head is on full swivel.
So what are the consequences of always being careful? No matter how safe you are, there is no guarantee of safety. Ever. So what do you do?
One thing I’ve always told myself is that I will not allow fear to take over my life. If I want to go to Target at 9:30pm to pick up something, I am going to go. I won’t be an idiot about it and stare at my phone the entire time I’m walking in/out of the store, but I am not going to let the fear of predators interfere with how I live my life. And I think that’s how all girls should be. If I get that “sinking feeling”, I listen to my gut and get the hell out of that situation.
Always listen to your intuition. But if every time an invite comes along you get a “bad feeling”, chances are it is more so anxiety at play. Or maybe you need new friends to party with (lol). Who knows? Your gut does. Listen to it.