Discomfort is defined as “the lack of physical comfort.” But I define discomfort as the feeling of walking into a room full of people staring at you, and not knowing a single one of them. Discomfort is falling flat on your face in front of people you desperately wanted to impress. Discomfort is uncertainty, second-guessing and wanting to run into the bathroom and hide.
But discomfort is great. In fact, it’s more than great. Discomfort is ESSENTIAL. To personal and professional growth.
When you’re just starting out in a new job, or new position, finding your voice and actually using it can be a large source of discomfort. Today, we have three tips to help you discover that voice and put it to work.
1. Remember why. There is a reason you were given the opportunity to be in this position. Remember why. During the interview process, you were maxing out your charm and pulling every trick you had up your sleeve. You had to sell them on yourself, and convince them to hire you. Why did you tell them they should hire you? Why are you the best fit for this position? (And you can’t say you’re not, because they wouldn’t offer you if you weren’t the perfect fit!)
2. Show, don’t tell. When you’re starting out in a new position, actions mean much more than words ever will. Instead of using your voice verbally, transfer what you have to say into tangible work. Present it to your co-workers/boss and prove to them that your voice deserves to be heard. Once you’ve already “walked the walk”, you can “talk the talk.”
3. Stay respectful. You are the new girl. Unfortunately, this means that people might not give you the time of day – at least not right away. Give it time. When you do voice your suggestions, do so confidently and humbly. You will win over your boss and co-workers in no time.