By: Annmarie Statly
Sometimes in life you find yourself in situations thinking, “Really, how on earth did I end up in this situation?” I honestly believe we are put in many scenarios in our lifetime to learn and grow from. We all encounter several of these along the way, the sooner you learn to trust your gut – the better off you will be.
Personally, one of the times that stands out most in my mind was when I got a new job out of college. This was an exciting time for me; good money, my own office, lots of potential, etc. Fast forward a few weeks and I began noticing things that seemed odd, just “off” to me. People showing up to work hungover, my boss missing meetings because of too much partying, lunch meetings with clients turning into a time to drink and flirt – I was completely out of my element. Deep down things didn’t feel right to me, but wondered if I was the one over reacting. The icing on the cake was when my boss threw a party for all of our clients; he went all out with decorations, music, food and drinks. I was uncomfortable but tried to put on a happy face. After several suggestive comments and inappropriate gestures I realized this was most definitely NOT a good situation for me to be in. I made up some lame excuse about not feeling well, high-tailed it outta there and promptly quit the next day!
Over time I have learned my intuition is priceless. No one can teach you that, it comes from growing in confidence in yourself. I don’t necessarily think there are steps you can take because each scenario you’re faced with can be so different from another. Along with that, things evolve and sometimes you don’t realize what has happened until you’re in the midst of it. But you can learn to trust your instincts and build on those by continuing to listen to them. Stay tuned into your feelings, this will enable you to recognize when you feel uncomfortable. Learn to speak up and not feel intimidated by worrying about what others may think of you or talk to someone close to you for advice. Sometimes thinking of someone close to you facing a similar situation may give you the boost you need to know what to do. Whatever it may be, big or small, put YOU first and have faith in that feeling in your gut!
Make it a great day.